When someone you love dies in a car accident there are many horrible things to come to terms in your new life.  One of the most unexpected parts comes in the mail.  First of all, there are mailers from the personal injury lawyers.  We started receiving letters within 48 hours of Dad’s death.  I’m married to an attorney. He’s definitely one of the good guys.   I like a lot of lawyers.  However, these personal injury lawyers are not on my list of desirable human beings.  I will not go further into describing these pariahs because as a ordained United Methodist clergy I took certain vows of seeing the best in people.

The other item in the mail is the beginning round of medical bills from the hospital, the doctors and the life flight helicopter.  Please do not hear this as a complaint about medical pricing.  It is merely a difficult reminder of the reality of the loss of someone who was so dear to us.  The amounts of these bills before auto and health insurance is jaw dropping.

When I was a college student we waited anxiously for the arrival of the mail carrier.  Now I dread the mail for my Mom.  The one bright spot in the mail is the many cards we have receiving from all of the country honoring my Dad.  Thank you for each card.  It makes getting the mail a bit more tolerable.